According to the weekend’s newspapers, Monica Porter felt her life was over when her 60th birthday coincided with the end of her second marriage.
Divorce, bereavement, the empty nest, or leaving your job through redundancy or retirement will often make you reconsider your life.
Taking up a hobby or joining a club is often suggested as a way to combat this sadness so Monica could have joined her local WI or any other club.
But her way forward was to find hot young men online, who were blind dates, to have random sex with,
And then write a book about her encounters.
By the way, she sold her online dating profile as a younger age 54 singleton.
She obviously looked OK, or they mostly met in the dark as she didn’t mention any young men who ran away at first sighting.
Monica found that Technology and dating had changed dramatically since she was previously single. The number of on-line dating websites and apps was confusing to her as was the quality of the age 60-something newly single men she encountered who time and age had not treated kindly.
Nonetheless she soldiered on.
According to Monica, there were dozens of hot single young men out there aged 20-30, all ready and willing for sex with older women. For them, the “zipless encounter” is less about a thrilling fantasy and more about saving time – a bit of slap & tickle then home before Match of the Day……….and also maybe money.
Monica bought the drinks and she took her young lovers to her own flat.
She wrote, “My experiment took me down some shadowy and chancy, not always wholesome, but always thoroughly invigorating rabbit holes”
thus shining a new light on Watership Down and another layer of meaning to the phrase- At It Like Rabbits.
Never wise to take a total stranger to your home for sex after a 45 minutes acquaintance in a bar.
At least one encounter took a frightening turn and she was lucky not to be seriously assaulted or worse.
After a year, ( or maybe that was the time the book publishers had given her to write the commissioned book)?
Monica realised her online pick-ups were treating her the same way she had regarded them.
Describing one lover as “So well-constructed I defy any red-blooded woman not to drool over the photo of him in his swimming trunks”
doesn’t suggest discussing Proust was on the agenda that evening.
She grumbled about the lack of “emotional value” which is illogical to say the least.
There’s a time and place for everything, including casual pick-ups between consenting adults.
As long as nobody is being exploited or deceived,
it’s very much your own business
Or you can make it everybody’s business by writing a book.
you can use an online dating website to find worthwhile relationships
where you get to know your possible partner, whatever his age,
But first and foremost as a friend
who values you as a person as much as you should value yourself.
Take note Monica,and all single ladies out there-
if you don’t value yourself- no-one else will…