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This is the best worst dates edited message thread from a dating site man/woman conversation

This is the best worst dates edited message thread from a dating site man/woman conversation

Him ” I have booked the Albert Hall for one day to audition all my dates…..

Him “A photo doesn’t reveal if you’ve had bath over the last few weeks. many women post makeover photos or photos that are 20 years old. That’s so silly. We are what we are today ( or last week) and not what we used to be when Neil Armstrong landed on the moon!”

Her: Are you around to meet up over the weekend?
Him: whats innit for me?
would you chuck in a Mars bar?
Is that a yes then?
I still have a slot at 11am . Whadjathink?

Him: A Bronze level date entitles you to 59minutes of sparkling conversation and FREE coffee.
A Silver level date entitles you to75 minutes of sparkling AND scintillating conversation with a FREE coffee AND cake.
A Gold date entitles you to 90 minutes of sparkling, scinitillation and exhilaratingconversation, a FREE coffee and cake and an optional grope in the toilets of the refreshment establishment.
A Platinum date- I’ll book a Hotel room
Take your pick xx

here are some “thank you but no thank you”

here are some “thank you but no thank you”
post date responses!

1st date background
I was hungry and had been driving since early in the morning. so I ordered some eggs with my coffee. When I offered to pay he didn’t hesitate to accept.

“Hi Many thanks for breaking your journey on Saturday to meet and my apology for misunderstanding the fact you needed to eat. Having given thought to our meeting over the weekend I feel there is not sufficient compatibility between us to take things further.
I wish you all the very best in your future endeavours
Allan

and
2nd date
texts from another man post evening drinks date.
him ” a wonderful evening- thank you”
“this evening was exceptional”
me “in a good way I hope”
him ” so did I pass the chemistry text?”
me ” yes”
him ” and you are very sexy”
him ” would like to see you again
then
after text silence for 48 hours
” it was a pleasure to meet you. On reflection I do not think we are sufficiently compatible. I wish you the very best in you search
David

Is there a male dating “post-date reject template?

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Why is it that so many women in their 40’s, 50’s and 60’s are now single again after a marriage or long live-in relationship?

Why is it that so many women in their 40’s, 50’s and 60’s are now single again after a marriage or long live-in relationship?
Why is it so hard to find a new life partner?
Where did all the eligible men of these age groups disappear to?

Do you think it’s because many men nowadays all date women at least 10-15 years younger than their own age group.
Why?
Because they can…..
It seems that younger women now prefer an older worldly-wise man. But when these same women reach 50 and 60, and the older man is 70+, then the prospect of an older man is less appealing, than same age or younger. .
Especially if these women have kept themselves in good shape, If you are Jerry Hall and your fiancee has very deep pockets, then it may be a different situation. ( sorry just saying…).

So what do stylish, young looking women in this 40-60 age group do to find a new partner in life?

would love your comments please…

you could always try your luck on the 2nd-time-around dating site- www.newlysingledating.co.uk in the meantime.
Its free to browse and sign up.
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#dating #love #relationships #datingetiquette

How many dates should you have with him before you decide the time has come to sleep with him?
Is there an unwritten 3-date or 5-date rule to hold out for?

At what point when you’re seeing him regularly, does dating become a relationship?

When do you both agree to come off the dating site?
What happens it one comes off and you find that the other has stayed on…

I would love to know the answers to these online dating dilemmas

#dating Are newly single women of a certain age looking for younger love now?

According to the weekend’s newspapers, Monica Porter felt her life was over when her 60th birthday coincided with the end of her second marriage.

Divorce, bereavement, the empty nest, or leaving your job through redundancy or retirement will often make you reconsider your life.
Taking up a hobby or joining a club is often suggested as a way to combat this sadness so Monica could have joined her local WI or any other club.

But her way forward was to find hot young men online, who were blind dates, to have random sex with,
And then write a book about her encounters.
By the way, she sold her online dating profile as a younger age 54 singleton.
She obviously looked OK, or they mostly met in the dark as she didn’t mention any young men who ran away at first sighting.

Monica found that Technology and dating had changed dramatically since she was previously single. The number of on-line dating websites and apps was confusing to her as was the quality of the age 60-something newly single men she encountered who time and age had not treated kindly.
Nonetheless she soldiered on.

According to Monica, there were dozens of hot single young men out there aged 20-30, all ready and willing for sex with older women. For them, the “zipless encounter” is less about a thrilling fantasy and more about saving time – a bit of slap & tickle then home before Match of the Day……….and also maybe money.
Monica bought the drinks and she took her young lovers to her own flat.

She wrote, “My experiment took me down some shadowy and chancy, not always wholesome, but always thoroughly invigorating rabbit holes”
thus shining a new light on Watership Down and another layer of meaning to the phrase- At It Like Rabbits.

Never wise to take a total stranger to your home for sex after a 45 minutes acquaintance in a bar.
At least one encounter took a frightening turn and she was lucky not to be seriously assaulted or worse.

After a year, ( or maybe that was the time the book publishers had given her to write the commissioned book)?
Monica realised her online pick-ups were treating her the same way she had regarded them.
Disposable.
Describing one lover as “So well-constructed I defy any red-blooded woman not to drool over the photo of him in his swimming trunks”
doesn’t suggest discussing Proust was on the agenda that evening.
She grumbled about the lack of “emotional value” which is illogical to say the least.

There’s a time and place for everything, including casual pick-ups between consenting adults.
As long as nobody is being exploited or deceived,
it’s very much your own business
Or you can make it everybody’s business by writing a book.

Or
you can use an online dating website to find worthwhile relationships
where you get to know your possible partner, whatever his age,
But first and foremost as a friend
who values you as a person as much as you should value yourself.
Take note Monica,and all single ladies out there-

if you don’t value yourself- no-one else will…

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Another week
a new online date.

This time I met a man, 20 years older than me, who I have to admit was not unattractive and did look young for his age.
Although I do constantly wonder why British men don’t look after their teeth?
Don’t they care?
We agreed to only meet initially for a quick coffee and within the first 5 minutes the conversation had turned to his recent online dating life.

After hearing about his dating life, around 30 dates in the last couple of months which seemed rather a lot to me…..leaving your options open?
It seems that most of the single women he had met are way naughtier and promiscuous, than single men nowadays, especially those women in the age 50+ age group.

He told me that all of his recent dates had been very keen to progress the date further, telling him that they would love to see him again and not just schedule him in, but schedule him in around the current lovers they were already seeing. Moreover one of the women told him she held swingers’ parties in Mayfair, whilst the other women it seemed were, let’s say, very busy and satisfied- thank you!

Well I’m no prude, but frankly I was shocked by the apparent behaviour of these women.  This 72 year old man was neither super-rich (he didn’t actually even buy me a coffee on our fleeting meeting) nor super-good looking but nevertheless had been regularly propositioned.
Not by me.

Times have obviously changed.
It’s the women who have become the hunters.
The poor chaps haven’t got a chance! And this isn’t just confined to dating online dating.

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Dating 1936-style

I am old enough to still own books and among my collection is a vintage book on dating.

“Live Alone and Like It”, by Marjorie Hillis (1889-1971)  An American who was Vogue assistant editor.

Her book was published in 1936, causing a media sensation
“Sophisticated Miss Hillis honestly believes there are advantages in a husbandless state!” gasped one critic – with its shocking concept of the possibility of a cheerful single life.

In fact, Miss Hillis
(daren’t use her first name as we haven’t been formally introduced)
was not promoting being single rather than married
but showing how we can all be positive in our singledom.
A topical subject now in 2014.

This book was written 20 years after the 1st World War, a period in which an entire generation of men were lost, who, by 1936, should have been in their 30s and 40s.
Their widows had little choice than to live alone, as there were so few men left.

At that time, while sexual frustration was acknowledged it was not openly discussed.  So not quite the same as now!

The chapter “Will You or Won’t You?” discusses the delicate subject of love affairs.
“Whether or not a woman has had her Moments,” advises Miss H. “If she has a grain of common sense she keeps it to herself since if she has, most people would be shocked and if she hasn’t, the rest would be superior.”

Actually, keeping an air of mystery would be a welcome change after our daily tabloid kiss and tells.

She continues, “Every woman needs friends who drop in for tea or cocktails or supper; friends with whom to share expeditions, to pour out enthusiasms and troubles and show off her new hats and old admirers”.
Now, we do all that too, more graphically…

If you are concerned about etiquette and entertaining, Miss Hillis is extremely helpful.
How do you get a man friend to leave at the correct time?
First decide whether you want him gone for good or merely for now.
If the latter, a tactful “Let me get you a glass of water, it’s hours since you had that whisky” should do the trick. The idea is for both parties to stand up and said guest will then take his leave.
Would this work today? Doubt it!

Miss H continues, Is it permissible for an un-chaperoned single woman to wear pyjamas when a gentleman calls?
“Lounging pyjamas which resemble sleepwear are suitable only for feminine guests whereas hostess pyjamas would not shock a bishop.”
Memo to self: get some elegant bias-cut satin pyjamas for entertaining the local vicar – penguin-printed fleece onesie definite no-no.

Marjorie Hillis encouraged “bachelor girls” to treat being single positively.

“You will have nobody to make a fuss over you when you are tired, but you will also have nobody to expect you to make a fuss over him, when you are tired”.
Now thats still true today

A year after this book was published, aged 48,
(her readers felt she had betrayed them!)
she found herself a widower to marry .

“Be interested and you’ll be interesting” may just catch you that man…